As humans, we find fulfillment through many different things, some healthy and some not so healthy. Fulfillment is also something that can leave us feeling satisfied or after awhile not so satisfied. After being a Christian for almost three years, I’ve come to the conclusion that only one person and one thing can give me complete, satisfactory fulfillment–Jesus Christ.
For the past week, I’ve been focusing on spirit-filled and God-centered relationships with the opposite sex. For so many years, I had this wrong and I kick myself in the butt for even doing and thinking the things I experienced! A relationship with a guy is hard to balance in today’s society. Its especially hard when there is such a worldview on how relationships are “supposed” to function and look like. It breaks my heart that so many women turn towards men for pleasure or just to have a “status.” This of course just adds another reason why I love reaching out to lost women
Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart.” After reading and pondering over this simple verse for about 45 minutes one day, I came to this realization: God cannot fulfill my desires until He becomes my delight 100%. When my mind and actions are not focused around Him, the other things in my life, aka my relationship, will not be satisfying nor fulfilling. God offers and fills me with delight, all I must do is seek Him and surrender to Him. This verse adds even more…Jesus fulfills ALL of my desires, even when my boyfriend fails. Of course my boyfriend will fail, he is human and why I’d like to think he’s Mr. Perfect and never messes up, he will and does, which only leaves me unfulfilled. So many times I’d like to think he could give me all the time and energy but he simply cannot BUT Jesus can. Finding fulfillment in Jesus will allow me to selflessly love my boyfriend. Finding joy and completeness in Jesus carries over into my relationship. However, Jesus will not give me the desires of my heart until I am delighted in Him COMPLETELY.
Why do women find fulfillment in other things? The answer: We find fulfillment in other things because we are yearning for acceptance and love and happiness. We want to feel special and wanted. In all honesty, this is why I find fulfillment in my boyfriend. But its so wrong. Finding fulfillment in the Lord brings even more happiness and acceptance and love than in any relationship with any guy. How? It starts with surrendering completely to Him–something I’ve been striving for all break. It involves turning towards Him in times of weary, stress, sadness, hurt, loneliness, etc. etc. You see, once finding fulfillment in Jesus alone, our expectations die and we no longer have a world view in how relationships are supposed to work…we no longer look for results because we know that only our Savior can present and provide us with what we need and want.
Its the cry of my heart that every woman, no matter how old or young, learns and meditates on this simple idea: satisfaction through the Lord will bring you fulfillment in all aspects of your life. As for Christian women who are in relationships, we should be living our relationships with men with Christ as the center BUT we should also be doing this out of love for our King, a simple act.
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